What do you do when your daughter wants to wear makeup to school, dye her hair blue or pierce her navel? First, says esthetician and spa owner Susie Galvez, choose your battles. You may cringe at the thought of eye shadow on your 13-year-old, but, Galvez says, mothers who compromise on temporary cosmetics for their underage daughters tend to be successful at putting a stop to more drastic changes, like getting tattoos. Here, Galvez and New York City makeup artist/hairstylist Tyronne Traylor offer their tips on how to deal with teens who are finding themselves and their "looks."

• Be open. Listen to your daughter's ideas respectfully. "She'll be more sensitive than ever because you're talking about her appearance," Galvez says. "A blue streak in her blonde hair might seem outrageous to you, but if you tell her that, she may not talk to you about her next new idea."

• Buy your daughter makeup you find acceptable. "Lipstick washes off," notes Traylor. "It's a good place to start." He says most girls will see right away that red lipstick looks terrible on them. "Let her try out all the colors she wants, but then offer to buy her something sheer -- a light pastel or lip-gloss."

• Praise your daughter's natural beauty. "If she has the core belief that she's attractive, she'll have a better perspective when faced with all the makeup and beauty options her peers are experimenting with," says Galvez.